This is a story about Jayne.
Once there was a girl named Jayne. Jayne wasn’t getting the love or attention she needed at home from her family. So Jayne began to look outside of the home for love. After many bad choices, a teen pregnancy and being shamed by her family for needing love, Jayne found a boy. We will call him Dirk.
Dirk wasn’t very nice to Jayne, but she loved him so she forgave him for being mean to her. In time Dirk and Jayne had a baby, then two more. Eventually Jayne convinced Dirk to marry her.
After several years, Jayne realized she deserved better. Dirk wasn’t happy inside and took it out on his family. After having enough of Dirk being mean, Jayne decided to leave him.
Too soon after leaving Dirk, Jayne met Eugene. He was funny and thought Jayne was wonderful. He professed his love and knowledge that she was the one! Eugene was everything Jayne could ever want. Jayne and Eugene got married and lived happily….for a while. Until Eugene began to show his true colors. Eugene thought it was ok to tease Jayne and make her feel bad about herself and her unique qualities. After a while Jayne got tired of this. She realized the things Eugene teased her about were the same things that Dirk had been mean to her about. In time, Jayne left Eugene.
Then Jayne met Jensen. Jayne had a lot of unhealed trauma from Dirk. She was learning this. But she thought Jensen was wonderful! They had great chemistry and they were like the best of friends with benefits. Unfortunatly Jensen had trauma too and he wasn’t able to open his heart to Jayne. Eventually Jayne left Jensen, though it wasn’t easy. He treated her well, but she knew she deserved better.
Jayne made the decision to move back to her children. And in time Jayne met another boy named Ross. Ross was different. He was quiet and sweet and they had a lot in common. They loved each other. But in time Ross got comfortable and began to talk down to Jayne. She was so disappointed because she thought this was the one for sure. But after all she had gone through she knew she deserved better. And she could not tolerate someone talking down to her, or making her feel like a burden. Jayne took some time and developed the courage to once again leave this boy that wasn’t good for her. It was time for Jayne.
Jayne decided it was time to take care of herself. After many failed long term relationships, it was time for Jayne to fall in love with herself. After years of inner healing and discovering her true authentic self, Jayne knew she deserved a love she could only give to herself, so she took time. She gave herself love, rest, self-care and nourishment. In time Jayne found inner peace and knew who she was and what she deserved in a partner.
One day the planets aligned and she ran into someone she used to know. Kyle was an old friend who had lost touch. Jayne wondered if this could be a new opportunity. She also knew that she needed to be happy inside in order to allow someone to love her the way she deserved.
Kyle took her to dinner, opened her car door and was in general a kind and gentle soul. This felt different, and though she was a little scared, Jayne decided to give Kyle a chance. Kyle is sweet, timid, kind and never makes Jayne feel like less of a person for any of her unique qualities. He treasures her and allows her to be herself without fear. He is respectful, even after years of being together. Jayne has learned that she can be herself without fear of being hurt, degraded or yelled at just for being herself.
Sometimes it’s difficult for Jayne to believe that life can be good. She has to battle the fear that bubbles up at times. Kyle reassures and comforts her during these times of fear, and Jayne refuses to let her fear get ahold of her. She allows Kyle to love her. And she allows herself to love him back.
Jayne and Kyle lived happily ever after.
The End
Prologue
Jayne learned in time that all of the difficult lessons she had lived through brought her to this place. A place where she can share what she has learned to help other verbal abuse survivors. She is very grateful to all her teachers, especially Dirk, for teaching her compassion and forgiveness. And she is grateful for the tools this journey has given her.
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